Dear Jordan,
I am looking for suggestions to curl my man's toes. We have been together for about 4 months. He is much more experienced than I am so there really isn't anything new on his side of the list. Do you have any suggestions for things I can try that will curl his toes? Or at least make him wonder "where did she learn that?!?!" but in a good way.
--Miss Sweet Surprise
Dear Miss S.S.,
I LOVE this question and I want to give some advice from my trick bag that you are NOT going to find in Cosmopolitan. These are some of my dirtier tricks, so use them as you see fit. I think four months into a relationship is a great time to start trying out "new" things and experimenting to see what really makes his toes curl.
Ride him facing backwards
Here is a position that I find really drives men out of their minds. You start out on top in a pretty standard position, riding his cock and kissing and all that good stuff. Now, without getting off his cock, start turning around, first swing your legs to one side of his body and give him a few nice strokes from that angle, then pivot all the way around so that you are riding him backwards. You have a less than exceptional view of his calves and feet, but he has the glorious view of your nice ass, waist and sexy back. From this position grab onto his ankles or his calves (depending on your respective heights) hook your legs under his arms or against his side, and start riding him like a real cowgirl! Go buck wild and give him a real show. Men are very visual creatures and the site of your rear bouncing up and down on his cock, and the visual of his penis moving in and out of your body, will make his senses whirl and his toes curl.
With a twist: if you don't find feet too distasteful, I've knocked my man over the edge by taking his big toe into my mouth while riding him, and sucking on it like it was every bit as yummy as his cock. If you are going to venture into this little explored territory, be sure he has trimmed toenails and clean feet or else it will be a stinking disaster.
Even dirtier: this position is also great for anal sex and double penetration with him and your favorite dildo, but be sure to use plenty of lube!
Another great starting position that leads very nicely into riding him backwards is 69, from his mouth you can scoot straight forward and sit on his cock.
Also try squatting on your feet while riding him backwards, and bouncing straight up and down on his dick.
Or while on your knees, arch backwards so that your hair brushes his face and have him prop your body up with his hands against your back or waist, while you go wild all over his dick. I find this to be extraordinarily conducive to orgasms as it will press his cock right up against your G-Spot. Mmmm mm good.
Let him "catch" you masturbating
This is a game I really enjoy playing and it gets things heated up to 500 degrees from the start. Here's an example of a set-up: my man is downstairs watching football, and I'm upstairs reading. I know that as soon as that game is over he is going to come up and see me, so say five to ten minutes before game end, I make sure I look fabulous (but not too fabulous or he'll know it was a set up) and I break out my favorite red dildo. I arrange myself on his bed and get to work pleasuring myself. Just the excitement that he's going to catch me usually sends me into orgasm within a few minutes, but I try to hold off on the first orgasm until he opens the door. The door opens, I pretend I don't see him at first and then let my orgasm cum with a fury. Then I see him! I get "embarrassed" I try to cover myself up...but he has seen enough. His pants are off and he jumps into bed and the games begin, and since the dildo is already in bed with us things get really interesting...
Watch a porn with him and copy everything the porn stars do
This is an ideal way to "do it like the pros." I will download or rent a hot porn video, one that really turns me on (like any film with interracial couple Jack Napier and Ryan Connor). You may want to preview the film before going for it, just to be sure that nothing comes up that will make you feel uncomfortable around your partner. But if you are particularly adventurous and comfortable with your partner, working from a porn that you've never seen before can be even more exciting, if a scene comes up that isn't possible for you to reenact, improvise and do your best. A great idea is to ask your man to choose his favorite video to reenact -- this will ensure that every time he breaks that video out for a little "alone time" he will remember that sexy, steamy night with you.
My favorite memory of doing it like the pros involved a threesome with another woman. During the scene where the women were giving the lucky guy a double blow job, I discovered my technique of taking his shaft in my mouth and licking his balls at the same time, that was definitely a cock-blowing moment.
Sex in dangerous places
I'm sure we've all done it: had sex in a public place. Sometimes even the mere act of suggesting a public rendezvous will make your man's cock bulge against his boxer shorts. Sex in dangerous places can add even more jalapenos to an already spicy sex life. Here are some of my favorite public places to get dirty:
1. In the club on the dance floor: wear a short skirt and while you are bumping and grinding sneak his zipper down and his cock out...you don't even have to cum for this to be an exciting moment.
2. In the back row of a concert: it's perfect. Thousands of people, but none of them are watching you. I did this at a Metallica concert, in the back row of the biggest stadium in the state. The nearest people were about ten rows below us. My man leaned me over the chairs, lifted my skirt, and took me from behind. Fucking in the presence of thousands of screaming fans may have been one of the most titillating experiences of my sex life.
3. In the bathroom at the bar, or the office, or the airport: there is nothing like having to stifle your orgasms as men (or women) wander in and out of the bathroom just on the other side of the metal stall door.
4. In the deserted stairwells of an office building, after hours: I remember actually getting entirely naked for one of these incidents. Thrilling!
5. In the elevator: press that stop button and get a quicky in between floors five and six.
In the woods just off the side of a hiking trail: this is a favorite past time for many horny couples living in Colorado. One of my favorite memories was riding my boyfriend when two hikers decided that our spot was a perfect place to take a pee. The girl unzipped and pissed, literally five feet away from where we were making love. Orgasms were put on hold while giggles took over, she finally zipped up and walked away and we finished things off with a bang.
Have fun!
xoxo
Jordan LaRousseOriginally published September 2005 - "Sugar & Spice"