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"Great Head!" blowjob sex advice from Jordan LaRousse
Recently I met a man who insisted that he was not a "blowjob guy". I countered this statement and told him that the truth is, he's simply never received a really great blowjob. Sure enough, after a night of bedroom festivities with me, he told me that he'd changed his mind and now loves a great BJ.
My theory is that every guy is a "blowjob guy". He just has to have a partner who knows what she is doing! Here is the latest bundle of goodies from my bag of sex tricks:
You gotta love it, and I mean really love it:
A man can tell if you are down there grappling with his penis while simultaneously thinking of bills that need to be paid, big deadlines at work, or that sexy bartender at the club last night. That's just not hot. This isn't just another thing on your "to do" list. Sucking your man to climax should be just as fun for you as it is for him.
If you're going to master the art of giving great head, you have to love what you are doing. Unwrap his cock like it's a gift from Santa. Nibble, suck and lick it like it's the most delectable treat you've ever tasted. Get turned on by turning him on.
Make it an event:
Good head cannot be rushed, make this an event for your guy. This is your chance to show him that you really love/lust/like him. Plan to spend about 30-40 minutes simply enjoying his penis, let him play with you if he wants, but keep the focus on him.
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With a man like this, who needs bananas? The kitchen counter can be the perfect place to start the big blow-job event!
Positions matter:
To give great head, both you and your guy should be comfortable. You may want to start with him standing, and you kneeling in front of him. This position is extremely sexy and is great for deep-throat maneuvers as it elongates your neck and provides ample room for his shaft in your throat.
But standing can get tiring after about ten minutes. If your guy hasn't climaxed yet, have him lie back on the bed, or sit on the couch. Ideally, to give full attention to his cock and balls, you should cozy up between his legs on your knees. If you're on the floor, don't forget to put a pillow under your knees so you don't get a nasty carpet burn.
69 is another well known and loved position; In this position, you lie on top of your man with your mouth at cock level and your pussy in his face. However it can be hard for you to focus on your man in this position, especially if he is gifted with tongue and toy. It can be quite a treat if you can manage to get him to explode in your mouth in this position, while simultaneously enjoying an orgasm of your own.
A little slap goes a long way:
Make your man go wild by taking his shaft and slapping it gently against your cheeks and lips.
Watch those teeth!
The most common complaint I've heard among men is that their partners are careless with their teeth. Be careful with those teeth, ladies! When stroking a man from base to tip with your mouth, try covering your teeth with your lips.
A little bit of teeth can be a good thing though, when properly maneuvered. Some men actually love it when you give the shaft a little careful chewing...not too high around the head (the area around the base of the head can be particularly sensitive and is best left to the lips and tongue), but if you chew lower around the center of the shaft this can be a highly pleasurable sensation for your guy. This isn't for everyone, so try it, and be sure to ask your man if he likes it; if not, switch up your method immediately.
Ball handling:
Nothing says "I lust/love/like you" more than some generous ball handling. This often ignored body part is full of sensation and should become a part of your sexual repertoire. Try kneeling in front of him, tilting your head back and gripping one or both of his balls between your lips. Suck them gently into your mouth and flick your tongue all around. If you have both balls in your mouth at once, be careful when you release them, if you are too abrupt they can "knock against each other" and cause a little pain. One ball at a time can be released a little more abruptly, but be gentle anyway. While sucking on his balls reach up with your hand and stroke his cock to keep it nice and hard, or have him stroke his cock, while you suckle his balls, until he climaxes, then move up to his shaft to take him deep in your mouth and swallow down his cum.
Conversely, you may want to give his shaft all the attention it can handle with your mouth, while gently tugging down on his balls with your hands.
Or you can try my expert trick: take his shaft as far into your mouth as possible, cup his balls in your hands and guide them gently toward your lower lip. While rubbing the tip of his cock on the roof of your mouth and/or in your throat, take your tongue and lower lip and lap at his balls. This will give your man the sensation of having two girls at once, but it's just you.
Deep-throat:
A lot of books out there say that deep-throat isn't a necessary trick to know to please your man. But ladies, I must say that this is the one maneuver that separates good head from great head. Deep-throat doesn't come naturally to everyone; some girls are a little more prone to gagging then others. I am one of those girls that had to practice to make perfect. To properly deep-throat remember the following basics: 1. Relax 2. Breathe 3. Try it in a position where you can tilt your head up and create straight passage down your throat (think of how a sword-swallower looks when he prepares to swallow a three foot sword). Even if you aren't an expert deep-throat artist, your man will love you for trying. Tell him you want to practice as much as possible, and do it! This subject requires a lot more discussion read more about it in the February 2007 Ask Jordan column DeepThroat 101
Rhythm and consistency:
Remember how I told you to set aside 30-40 minutes to really please your man? Well the first part of this session should definitely be about trying out new tricks and getting him turned on. But once you have him rock hard and ready to explode you need to bring him to climax, and this requires a little rhythm and consistency. Each man has his own favorite rhythm, some like it hot and fast, some like it at a slower pace, some prefer a very strong grip, some can get off with the touch of a feather. The key here is to find your man's rhythm, get into it and keep at it until he reaches climax. Whatever you do, once you get into the rhythm don't change anything, unless you want to prolong his ejaculation! I find for the grand finale it's most effective to use one or both hands (depending on how big he is, and how much pressure he needs) to grip around the base of his shaft. While stroking him with your hands, use your mouth on the upper half of his cock to keep it wet and slippery. Tickle his head and the underside of his cock with your tongue as you stroke and suck him to a tasty climax.
To spit or to swallow?
I love the taste of my man's cum. Swallowing cum is like enjoying a delicious crème broulée, and it's a clean finish. On the other hand. it's also very exciting to squirt his juices all over your face and breasts (the money shot!). This can be extremely visually stimulating for your man and an ideal close to a perfect BJ. If you are a spitter, it's best to take his cum into your mouth and have a tissue readily available to spit into, but be discreet about it. Whichever way you go let him know you love his cum and you want more, and hopefully in an hour or less he'll be hot to give you another reward.
Need more blowjob advice? Read Jordan & Samantha's book Mastering Your Man From Head to Head
Originally Published July 2005 - "Coming With a Bang"