Sex Advice from Jordan LaRousse
A Cold, Cold Wife
"By Candle Light" by Webster Murray
Dear Jordan,
I am a 71-year-old man in good health and I think my sex drive and urges are as high as they were when I was in my 30s or 40s. However my wife at the age of 65 has lost all interest whatsoever and claims she no longer has any physical desires. Not only that but she fails to understand my needs and desires and thinks I should forget about it too. She is aware I masturbate but won't even lend a hand with that ( if you will excuse the pun).
I would welcome any help or suggestion please.
Thanks,
High and Dry
Dear H&D,
As much as you want her to understand your needs, it's extremely important that you understand hers as well.
Are you still the romantic sweep-her-off-her feet gent that you were when you first met your wife? You should work to rekindle that exciting, seductive spirit (or try it for the first time if you haven't before). Accomplish this by doing sweet things like drawing her a bubble bath, pouring her a glass of bubbly and washing her back. Or cook her a romantic dinner for two and give her a back rub. These actions can set a romantic stage that could lead her gently into sex play. Women respond very well and often sensually to gestures like this. Also - compliment compliment compliment. Tell her how good she smells, how beautiful and alluring you find her, how you just can't keep your hands off of her...etc.
If you want her to help you masturbate, it won't do you well to just put her hand on your cock whenever you get hard. Even us younger women find that to be a funny and somewhat off-putting gesture. Instead set the stage and when she is feeling, warm, wanted and relaxed press your hard-on against the small of her back, kiss her neck, and let her know how much you would love to feel her hand on you.
She does need to understand your sex drive is still alive and well, indeed most men in good health maintain a fairly consistent drive throughout their lives, with only a gradual tapering with age. But you also need to understand that due to a significant decrease in testosterone levels, a woman's sex drive suffers something akin to a plummeting stock market just after menopause. This doesn't mean that it's impossible for her to be aroused, it does mean it is a lot more difficult and that you'll need to woo her a lot more than you may be used to. Make sure she feels beautiful and desirable and she'll respond positively and sensually.
Hope this helps! Good luck.
Jordan