Being a sex goddess isn't about how you look, it is about how you think and how you feel. You don't have to look like a Victoria Secret model or a porn star to be a sex goddess. You just have to learn to think sexy and to feel sexy, it's all about attitude.
Here are some simple things you can do to alter your way of thinking, define what you think is sexy, and help you to unleash your inner sex goddess and put the spark back into your love life. You might want to grab a notebook and a pen to write down your notes.
1) Evaluate yourself in the mirror, what are your best features? Decide what you would like to change about your physical appearance. If it can be changed- start doing something about it; if it can't -learn to accept it and love it. Learn how to accentuate your strengths and your best assets. Learn to love yourself and see your inner beauty.
2) Start exercising; get your body in shape for sex. A healthy body is a sexy body. Plus exercise combats depression and releases natural endorphins that make you feel more positive and this will help you feel sexier.
3) Write down a list of your strengths and weaknesses both physical and mental/emotional. Work on enhancing your strengths.
4) Make a list of the women you think are sexy and why. This could be a fictional character in a movie or on TV or it could be your next door neighbor or someone you work with.
5) Describe what you think is sexy, define sex appeal to you.
6) Make a list of things you would like to do (ex: take a Pilates class, an art class or learn to tango) pick one item from your list and go do it.
7) Make a list of places you would like to travel to (they can be 30 or 3000 miles away or anywhere in between). Now make arrangements to go to one of these places.
8) Read an erotic romance novel or some great erotic short stories that you can find online. If you are reading this, you are already in the right place! :D
9) Watch porn. You may cringe but there are movies made specifically to cater to women, movies by Playgirl or made for Playgirl Television and anything by Candida Royalle. There are also many erotic websites that cater to women (Cinema Erotique and For The Girls for example). You need to broaden your horizons and let go of your inhibitions. A sex goddess is uninhibited.
10) Write down a sexual fantasy of yours in explicit detail.
11) Order some lingerie catalogs or shop online, buy some new and sexy lingerie. Get something you would have never considered buying before, be bold and daring.
12) Get a makeover, color your hair, get a new hairstyle, do something that changes how you look and makes you feel like a new woman.
13) Give your bedroom a makeover; turn it into a love nest with exotic bold colors, sensual fabrics, soft lighting, lots of fluffy pillows, and candles. Get rid of the pink frilly ruffles and lace, think sexy, silk, satin, velvet, damask, brocade, rich sumptuous fabrics that will tease and tantalize your skin.
14) Touch yourself, learn how your skin feels, how it responds to your touch, discover how you like to be touched, what feels good to you. Use different items like silk scarves, feathers, leather straps, delight in the different textures and how they feel. Wear a blindfold to enhance the sensations
15) Masturbate, often. A woman that can control her own pleasure is a woman in control. This will help you be able to give and receive pleasure which is a major turn on. Invest in some sex toys.
16) Accept your sexual identity; do not be afraid of your sexuality or your desires. We are sexual creatures and we should not be ashamed of that.
17) Put together a sexual treasure chest, in it you should have things like a blindfold, fuzzy handcuffs, a selection of vibrators and dildos, scented massage oils, lickable/edible body oils and lotions, tickling feather, candles, cock rings, condoms (depending on your situation), etc... You could also store your copy of the Kama Sutra and your selection of porn magazines and DVD's in your little treasure trove of sexual goodies.
18) Pamper yourself, give yourself a wonderful treat, take some time to yourself, do something that feels good that you find relaxing.
19) Have sex as often as possible, be an active participant. Enjoy the sensations. Be open to giving and receiving pleasure.
20) Make a list of sexual things you would like to do, pick one and start experimenting or remember that fantasy you wrote down in explicit detail, go act it out.