Last month, I discussed taking care of your aura when it comes to sex and sexual partners, in "Choosing the Correct Partner." This month, I'd like to continue the conversation by addressing "Aura Condoms."
Auras interact more when two people make love with than at any other time. And once a woman is attracted to someone she sees often, especially once she has sex with him (or her), she becomes particularly vulnerable to his energetic problems. When one person's muddiness, granulation, spikiness, congestion, cloudiness, or darkness starts moving in on another aura, it is very visible to psychics. And when this happens, it feels like a malaise to the person being infected. Illness, fatigue, confusion and more can often actually be leaked from a lover's aura, rather than being a woman's own problem. What's important to note is that this can be prevented.
Learning to protect your aura can be life-saving, as often energetic contagions can lead to serious illness, among other things. Learning to do this may take some time, as changing a habit of energetic dynamics isn't easy. Changing energetic habits isn't easy, and learning to protect your aura can take time. Moreover, in a relationship, there may many layers to go through, many reasons and ways a waman takes on her lover's energy needlessly. Here are a few things to try if you have taken someone else's unpleasant colors on or are going to be with a lover with some energies you want to protect your field from. This isn't to suggest your lover is a bad person, as this contagion happens with perfectly fine relationships that are going well and made of love.
Sage in the room is helpful if you feel you have taken something on, or if you're with someone you aren't sure about, especially if he is telling you his woes. Ventilation is good when burning sage (or even when you aren't) as it gives the fuddled energy a place to go. Keep in mind that once outside the body, energy doesn't dissipate right away. It can stay around the house and infect someone else, such as a pet or another person, or it may go back into the person from whence it came.
Cover yourself in the concept that you will be safe, and command that it is so, believe it strongly by feeling how you imagine it would feel and owning that. You may imagine a covering of armor around your body, and outer layers of the aura as well. Take some time to do this first, closing your eyes, settling into meditation momentarily, maybe speaking the commands silently, and visualizing the glowing white shield, like white auric gloves or a wetsuit.
A very important visualization tool is to imagine and create a vacuum of some kind, a vortex leading into the ground that will suck everything out of your aura that is not beneficial to it. What we visualize really takes form in the astral planes and can be effective. I sit quietly and imagine the colors I that have taken on being vacuumed out, and while I do this, my aura-viewing friend, Carolyn, sees them disappear.
The most important psychological tool is to go back in time to the point at which you were trained to take on other people's problems. Perhaps you had to be there to listen to a parent or sibling when you were young, and wanted to be helpful without knowing how, as well as being unable to create boundaries to protect yourself. Maybe your own needs weren't focused on enough and you felt they should take lower priority. These types of scenarios makes it easier for a woman to take on other people's auric problems as an adult. Addressing your own personal scenarios and understanding where your tendencies come from will help in protecting yourself as an adult - understanding your own past and propensities helps to act as a type of spiritual condom.
Try many approaches to cleansing. Use your hands to wipe the area around yourself, scraping anything off that shouldn't be there. Visualize a fan blowing unwanted colors off of you, or put your hands onto the ground and allow the energies to flow out into the ground. Flicking contaminants off is not good unless you flick them into a bowl of salt water. In fact, washing your whole body with sea salt and taking Epsom salt baths are excellent ways of cleansing the aura.
Generally, a combination of every trick in the book may be useful at first, and as you may not be able to see the contagion, it can't hurt to keep cleansing as long as you have the patience. These things are not necessarily something you want your lover to see you doing unless he is doing the same sort of thing, as he may find it insulting if he isn't familiar with it. However, remember that you are simply taking care of yourself - cleansing is really no more insulting than using a condom.
While making love, you may want to keep the light of joining around you, and once you ask it to be there, you need not keep focusing on it. The idea is not to focus on the idea of danger, but on safety; not on him as dirty, but on your field as being resilient. After you make love and have enjoyed as much merging as you like, it is a good idea to mentally make an energetic break. You might want to surreptitiously make a little cut between your bodies, cutting not only cords, but the entire length of sexual auric contagion, while visualizing, and asking for the colors to separate out into their two beautiful selves. While we are all one, and the thrill of being in love is the sense of union, this will never be taken away from by separating out the colors and by cleansing the aura and cutting the cords and revising the psychology of energy dynamics. The love and connection will still be there, just better. And with more rewards. Wearing your "auric condom" will provide you more freedom and a stronger sense of yourself, and will reinforce your power and the psychic space in which you play.
Originally published August 2007 - "One, Two, Orgy!"