Dear Jordan,
I was at the sex toy shop the other day with my boyfriend. We've been messing around with anal play lately and he thought maybe we could get a butt plug. He said he'd heard of girls inserting them in their butts and then putting on their clothes and going out on hot dinner dates and such. Anyway, when he showed me the plugs I about passed out just looking at them. There were some that were so GIGANTIC I don't think even a horse would be comfortable with one up his ass. Jordan, am I wussing out because I went for the smallest size available, and more importanly do people actually use these things???
A Hole Lotta Butt
Dear AHLB,
Of course people can and do use these extra large butt plugs; if they didn't then the sex shop would have no reason to carry them. You did the right thing by purchasing a plug that has a size better suited to your sensibilities. While I've enjoyed a lot of anal play myself, I actually haven't tried the largest of the butt plugs because they are a quite intimidating. It's always a great idea to stretch our sexual boundaries and introduce exciting new play into our sex lives, but a girl's gotta have boundaries. And for you (and I and many others) the super-size butt plug goes just a little bit beyond that boundary.
That said, the plugs are designed for anal sex play and toy makers of the toy have put in every effort to make it safe. The plugs have a cone shape design which means that the girth of the toy isn't nearly as wide at the top as it is at the bottom. This shape actually matches the flexibility of the bum hole, which has more flexibility toward the opening. Also, they are equipped with a base that prevents the toy from being fully inserted into the butt, thus trips to the emergency room for "lost toys" are prevented. If by chance you get a wild plug up your ass and decide to take a spin on one of these bad boys, please invest in a super size pump bottle of lube to go with it and keep it slippery! Remember that the anus produces no natural lubrication of its own.
Oh and by the way, YES! definitely take him up on the idea of wearing a butt-plug out on a hot date. The turn-on factor is so great that you probably won't be able to make it very long before you find yourself under the table giving him head, or propped up against the wall in the men's bathroom getting your brains fucked silly.
Have fun!
xoxo
Jordan
Originally published June 2007 - "Body Art"