Some women are voyeurs, adventurous, confident. They have their drawer of toys and aren't afraid to pull them out. Other women, while they may love sex, haven't yet crossed that threshold of using toys and props in the bedroom. I have to admit, I reside in the company of the latter. 
When I was invited to my first "Slumber Party" last fall, I was both intrigued and nervous. (For those of you who don't know what a Slumber Party is, it's the sex-toy equivalent to a Tupperware party. A woman invites all of her friends over, and invites a Slumber Party representative to come and do a party at her home. It's a great way to get women together, drink a little wine, and have a ton of fun.) I went with a friend who had been to one before. She warned me that the ladies who present the products sometimes ask for volunteers, and unless I wanted to be modeling lingerie, I should probably refrain.
The women at the party soon relaxed, with the help of a few appetizers and a glass or two of wine. I was amazed at the demographic; most of the women were in their mid-to-late thirties and forties. These women were your typical mothers and housewives and professionals who one might assume would be more likely to throw a family barbecue or go to a P.T.A. meeting than they would appear at an adult toy party.
I was so set at ease by the atmosphere, the camaraderie and laughter, that all thoughts of my friend's previous forewarning flew out of my mind, and when our party presenter, Kelly, asked for volunteers, my hand shot up. My friend looked at me with wide eyes and I realized the folly I had just committed.
Fortunately, I wasn't asked to try on any lingerie. Instead, Kelly gave each of us a sample of cream on a q-tip and instructed us on where to apply it. Each cream was created to go on different parts of the vagina. I waited for my turn in the bathroom and applied mine on the inside of the two lips. I pulled up my jeans and waited for the promised effects.
As we filed back into the living room, Kelly told everyone what we had put on, and told the rest of the women that if we looked strange, it was because we were experiencing very different sensations and that women in general aren't used to feeling that part of the body so strongly.
Let me tell you Ladies, she was right. I don't think I would have believed it had I not tried it myself at that party. The cream that I had tried felt like a cool, electric wave that pleasantly circulated through my vagina and then warmed. It was almost similar to the way menthol can cool and warm at the same time. It was incredible to have these sensations radiating up from my nether region as I sat on a couch in my friend's living room. The cream that I tried was X Scream.
X Scream is actually a cream that can be used by both men and women. Kelly describes it as feeling "spicy". She said that some women say it is "hot" but not a painful hot, others say it feels cool, yet "spicy". The cream is nicely flavored for "dining in" and comes in Mandarin Orange, Mint Chocolate Chip, and Butter Cream Icing. However, Kelly advises women and their partners that if they use X Scream, they shouldn't expect a long night of love making,because this cream will have him "raring to go."
The second cream sold by Slumber Parties (which I later tried and then bought) is called Nympho Niagra. You simply apply a small amount to the clitoris and within moments, you feel incredibly turned on and hot. The cream works by actually increasing blood flow to the clitoris. It's amazing to apply something to your body and have such a strong, physical reaction!
The Nympho Niagra is just for her and has no scent, no smell and no flavor. Kelly says that it's great for women who aren't in the mood, because this cream will get them there quickly. It also keeps the blood in the clitoris which helps with multiple orgasms. Kelly advises that this cream is great for women on medications such as birth control, anti-depressants and high blood pressure medication, as well as for women who are pre-menopausal, menopausal or post-hysterectomy.
Ladies, I highly recommend both of these creams. They're perfect for the curious woman who isn't quite ready to use handcuffs, toys or other props, but who wants to introduce something subtle yet exciting to the bedroom. (And of course, for those women who are already well-acquainted with their favorite dildos and role-play, these creams are another fun adventure between the sheets.)
I also highly recommend Slumber Parties as a company and as a great night out with the girls. Kelly was entertaining, knowledgeable and really put everyone at ease, as I'm sure is the case for all of the Slumber Party representatives. When it comes to the actual purchasing, everything is done behind closed doors and is completely confidential. A slumber party is a perfect way to get the girls together, talk, giggle and learn a lot, about each other and about sex.
Visit www.slumberpartiesbykelly.com for more information on the creams and the parties!
Originally published in July 2005 - "Coming with a Bang!"